The Best Dieting & Dating Advice Ever!!
Now it's time to hear the advice that you have been waiting to hear, Randy Santel's advice!! Haha a lot of the stuff up above came from different websites that I thought sounded good. They are very good tips for normal couples and people just wanting to lose a few pounds. Now it's time to get serious though!! Here are the things that I've learned while trying to lose weight while in a relationship:
► Your sigficant other MUST fully support your decision to lose weight!! This is the largest problem for people (especially me) trying to lose weight. While you are on a diet, your partner cannot be eating whatever he or she wants to, especially around you. A person's will power is only so strong. Even the strongest people can collapse at the wrong moment if the right food or drink is placed in front of them. Before you start your diet, tell your partner about it!!
► This is going to sound sexist, but I don't mean it to be. This works the other way around too. This has happened to me and many other guys that I know. I'm sure it happens to some girls too though. Many times, especially for girls that don't exercise much, the girl will start to feel down about herself because her guy is working out & she is not. Therefore, she starts "emotional eating
" and she unknowingly tries to bring her guy down with her. I was working out one time at my apartment while my ex was sitting on the couch watching TV and eating brownie batter. Immediately after my workout, she asked if I wanted to sit with her & have some brownies!! My buddy once told me that his girlfriend at the time once offered him ice cream right after his workout. This is a lose-lose situation for everyone. If the guy gives into her, he is then eating something he is completely not supposed to eat after a good workout. He is also rewarding a negative behavior, so she will just continue to do it again in the future. If the guy says no like he should, the girl will start to have an even bigger "pity-party" that he has to deal with about her feeling fat & mistreated. Like I said, this is a no-win situation for everyone!!
► To keep your relationship & your diet both successful, you need to address problems when they happen so they can be quickly corrected. If you are on a diet, and you feel your partner just did something that offended your weight loss plan, tell him or her so that it can be fixed. Letting your feelings continue for a while only makes things worse. A few things have happened to me that offended my diet, but I thought it was a better idea to just save the situations so that I had some leverage during the next fight or argument. This does not work well!! haha it would have been better if I had just addressed the situation earlier when it happened.
► This is for guys!! From the start of your first date, the girl has been trying to "train" you, and hopefully you know that. When you can, especially if you are on a diet, you have to find ways to "train" her back!! Lol if she chooses a restaurant with a lot of healthy options for you, or if she cooks your favorite meal using heathier ingredients, do something free like washing her dishes the next day, and then tell her thank you. Make sure she knows you did it to thank her. There is no such thing as a guy doing something for a girl "just because!!" Even if you say you did something just because you love her, she won't take it that way, especially if you just did something to piss her off. Find cheap ways to "train" your significant other when he or she does things to really help promote your weight-loss goals.
► THIS IS IMPORTANT!! If you are going to remember only 1 thing from this page, make it this one!! DO NOT buy your dieting significant other candy & unhealthy foods as a present!! Easter, Halloween, birthdays, Christmas, and other significant events are traditionally considered good times to give a little candy as a present. DO NOT do this if your partner is losing weight!! I was on my diet a few years ago, and I received a present for Easter. She had my apartment key at the time, and I came home to a surprise of over $40 worth of my favorite candies in a big basket. Again, this is a lose-lose situation for everyone. She wasted her money on a present that I absolutely hated, & I really could not do much about it. At the time, I had pretty weak willpower, and I knew that I could not tell her I hated the present. Needless to say, that relationship went south pretty quickly after that. I have learned since then. A few months ago I received a few bags of candy as a present, but luckily she left the receipt in the bag!! After she left, I brought the candy back & used the money to buy her flowers!! I felt pretty smart that day!! It's okay to buy a small candy bar for the person maybe once a month, but other than that, be creative and choose other presents.
► Another tough situation sometimes, especially for guys, is if your significant other's parents are really good cooks!! I used to get invited over to eat dinner like 1-2 times per week when I was dating a girl a few years ago. Her mom & stepdad were phenomenal cooks!! One big problem for me was that they usually ate fairly late in the evening. Luckily they typically cooked healthy foods most of the time. The biggest problem though is they they cooked a lot of food, and it was a family of skinny girls, and the stepdad did not eat much. Haha this meant there was always a lot of food left so I never had to worry about portion sizes. I typically always overate!! In situations like this, you just have to make smart decisions. If you need to, eat a snack before you go over for dinner. You can also just make a rule that you will have only 1 plate & you won't get seconds. Also, try to limit the size of your dessert, no matter how delicious it is. The more you eat, the harder you have to exercise the next day!! ;)
► In a relationship (definitely marriage too!!), the very best-case scenario is for the both of you to go on a diet at the same time. Then you both are able to motivate eachother to continue without "cheating." It's easier to pick restaurants, meals, & activities. If your partner needs to lose weight, & even if you only need to lose 5-10lbs, plan a diet together and help eachother stick to it. Especially if the guy needs to lose 15-20 and the girl only wants to lose 5-10. Lol girls hate this about guys, but typically the guy will be able to lose the 15 before she can lose the 5!! Diets are even easier if you both will be reaching your goals around the same time. Try it!! :)